My Own “Wellness Project”

The last few years has been hard on me physically, and it’s getting old. Fibromyalgia, anxiety, panic disorder, Hashimoto’s, arthritis… the list goes on. I’m officially sick of being sick. It’s time for a project: a wellness project.

With my birthday coming up, I’ve been taking stock of everything that I have, everything that I want, and everything that I long to do for me and my family. None of it centers on the material things we have, yet it’s all associated with or affected by my health. It’s a big sign that something needs to change.

Hitting the Stacks

As always, I did what I am comfortable with in order to learn and discover what I needed. I hit Amazon and started reading. I’ve fallen hard for fads or scare tactics in my younger days, so I try to be very wary of what it is I’m reading, who it is that is speaking, and what they not only stand to gain but stand to lose in their recommendations. Jaded? Me? Nah. (Okay, a little.) That’s when I found The Wellness Project by Phoebe Lapine.


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This book is exactly what I need right now. I’m still reading it at the time of writing this, so I’m not going to give a big review. (I’ll link one here when I actually write it.) Her approach to health is balanced and individual, and I truly feel that is what is missing in the health and wellness space today. You can find it with health coaches charging large fees, but the blogs, books, and sites out there seem to push that there is one way to health.

On that, I call bullshit.

Just like Lapine, I believe that there has to be a balance in approaches so that it works with my life, not against it. For example, we have several food allergies and intolerances in our family. This makes meal prep a challenge some days. I’m also mom to two kids spread nineteen years apart, so what will work for half my family won’t for the other.

I’ve tried extremes, and it isn’t sustainable for me. Also, when you factor in my medical tornado, my landscape goes from calm to chaotic quickly. I need to be able to navigate each day with a little flexibility and a whole lot of love and compassion for change because as soon as I think I have a pattern down chronic illness strikes.splash

Getting Well

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To make these changes, I’ve decided to take on my own “wellness project.” My goal for the next year is to focus on what improves my life on four fronts: mind, body, soul, and space. I’m not following any plans or doing any crazy detoxes because some blog post said it was great.

I’m going to set small, attainable, healthy goals and habits for myself each month and, just like the author of this book, I’m going to find out what is beneficial to me and my health/headspace/soul. Those things that turn out to be good, stay. Those that aren’t good, go. By building a solid foundation unique to me, I’ll grow in my goals.

I’m going to love myself and make myself healthy and happy so that I can be a better mom to all of my girls and a better partner to my guy.

What About You?

I know me, and having a group of encouragers (and who I can encourage) will make the journey easier and more fun. You don’t have to read this book – or others on my list – with me or set the same goals and habits as I do. You don’t even have to do it for a full year if you don’t want to. But I’d love to have you join me if you are looking to accomplish the same thing in your life… happiness.

Join me? If you’d like to, drop a note in the comments below or catch me on Instagram or Twitter. I’d love to have you with me for this journey. If there are several of us, I will put together a private space on Facebook where we can get together to share our trials and triumphs. EDITED: We’ve now got a group! Join me in Seeking: Health & Wellness on Facebook.

What kind of present do you give yourself at your birthday? Do you ever use it as a time of self-evaluation or is it all about the goodies? Let’s chat in the comments!

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