Rambling about starting over #WeekendCoffeeShare

This week has been full of times when I felt like I was starting over. I started publishing under a new domain name. I decided to really find and connect with new people on the interwebs because a year away from twitter means I’ve lost my chums. I joined a new writing link-up and started writing practices and planning again after realizing it’s been a year since I published The Widow Teal Episode One.

One. Year. Since. I. Published. Fiction.

Does that even make me a writer? Yes, but a writer who feels like she’s starting over. Again.


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Always in transition…

Back in the day, one of my favorite movies was Joe Versus the Volcano (1990). It’s still a goal to own this on dvd or blueray – if it’s even made its way onto blueray.  The writing is fabulous. I wanted to be Patricia, the self-confident and assertive sister, but most days I felt like Anjelica, the flibbertigibbet. From one passion to the next I wander through phases of my life. Does that make me adventurous or flighty? It could go either way.

The common thread in my life has been “transition.” I feel like I’m always transitioning. I’ve been a single mom twice. I’ve been a married mom twice. I’ve been a professional genealogist, office manager, freelance writer, social media manager, and book seller. I’ve changed my game more times than I can count.

I’m not sure when it grabbed a negative connotation for me, but “transition” did somewhere along the way. Though, this doesn’t have to be a bad thing I suppose.

*takes a sip of coffee*

This week I’ve looked at:

  • starting over on my health via nutrition so that I can stop feeling so damn tired and sore all the time (thanks, fibromyalgia);
  • starting over on several writing projects because, hello, a writer who doesn’t write tends to get cranky. I’m sure the man of the house would like me to be less cranky;
  • starting over with new, clean spring decorating on a budget when we move to a newly renovated townhouse with tons of windows just screaming for me to start painting again (ALL NATURAL LIGHT, PEOPLE).

That’s a lot of starting over, but they all have good motivations behind them.

Avoiding the obvious…

Throwing the spaghetti at the wall, here’s what sticks: I’m a 42-year-old woman with several chronic illnesses, a drive to write but a time management problem, and a seven-month-old little girl that deserves me around as much as her twenty-year-old sister had me. My obvious fear is that I won’t be able to do that.

This is what I want to avoid.

So, is it being flighty to make another change in diet and focus more on the goals that are fulfilling to me than what I thought I was going to be doing? Or, is it just avoiding the obvious options that I don’t like? I think I’ll go with the one that makes me sound less like an airhead.

*takes another gulp of coffee*

It’s not starting over…

“Life is not so much about beginnings and endings as it is about going on and on and on. It’s about muddling through the middle.”
Anna Quindlen

If we are supposed to be adults, that means figuring out what is best for us and making the changes that need to happen to get there. Right? Then, isn’t this just living and less starting over?

Take a look at the home page and you’ll realize this is a relatively new blog. I’m still updating my author profile occasionally over at stephaniefishman.com, but that just doesn’t feel like the place to brain dump about painted feet art projects with my baby or how to make the best raw green dressing that doesn’t make me want to gag and beg for chocolate.

That life stuff needs to live here where I can talk to all of my tribes: the crunchy moms, the homeschooling families, the crazy raw foodies who still eat cooked beef stew, the weirdoes wandering both the library and the Dollar Store in the same day because you decided you wanted to redo the kitchen. (It makes sense really… have you seen some of the kitchens in cookbooks? #goals)

I guess I really didn’t start over this week. I just chose to live more in line with what I want and need at this stage of my life. That sounds less flibbertigibbet and more mature.

I like mature.

*slurps the last of the coffee loudly*


What are you beginning this week? How about a “muddle through”? Let’s connect. Share your life with me in the comments on or Twitter.

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10 thoughts on “Rambling about starting over #WeekendCoffeeShare

  1. Nice to meet you Stephanie. I like the idea of starting over even though you aren’t. All your goals seem achievable if you can keep the motivation and the passion going and hopefully those that share coffee with you might help on that score. I’m older than you and I don’t have the incentive of a baby but I too hope to improve my health (which isn’t bad) and my fitness and agility. I have started on a predominantly raw diet but eat the occasional beef stew. If we go out I just eat without protest what is offered (like the yummy cheesecake last night). I think the big thing is don’t beat up on yourself when you slip. Look forward to seeing your progress. Thanks for coffee.

    1. Irene! It’s so exciting to me to meet someone else who is trying to make the same positive changes – not to mention someone who is eating mostly raw! We should compare notes. I’d love to chat about food. So nice to meet you!

  2. Hi Stephanie. It’s nice to meet you. 🙂 I think every day we start over so it’s always beginnings, even when they are somewhere in the middle. I’ve been experimenting with nutrition, exercise, yoga, and meditation to help improve my health. It’s good to live more in line with what you need and want. Otherwise, it’s just going against the flow.
    Thank you for the coffee. Have a great week! 🙂

    1. “Otherwise, it’s just going against the flow.” That is so true. When we aren’t in alignment in our lives, be it with our diet and nutrition or our faith and family, it really does feel like we’re fighting up stream. You just gave me the visual that I needed for this week.

  3. Been there, done that. It’s just life, I’ve discovered. Ebbs and flows. Things that look like new beginnings but are just continuations (or try agains). Living more in line. That’s a good way to put it. Feels like starting over, but it’s just the melting away all of that which doesn’t matter. One of the great benefits of aging. 🙂

    1. Hi, Tara! I think it’s something that most of us have in common. I just wish we would talk about it more. Here’s to sharing, to ebbs and flows, and to focusing on what matters instead of the small stuff. Have a great week!

  4. I think it is less starting over and more making some adjustments with prioritization of health and self-care. As a 43 year old mother of two with a time management problem, I’ve tried to also make some positive changes lately with my diet and I have been trying to make more time for myself (though that is so difficult). I’m at a place in my life where I want to feel better and not just kill myself trying to make everyone else in my life happy. I want to feel like I am living not just surviving. I know that you can achieve all of your goals and I wish you luck.

    1. I am right there, Amie! My focus word for this year is “thrive.” I don’t want to just survive either. I want to have the life that makes me feel fulfilled and healthy, happy, and loved. That’s what thriving feels like to me. Here’s to getting that for ourselves! Keep in touch on your journey!

  5. I think you have to stop chastising yourself for starting over. It’s when we stand still and don’t set goals that we start dying. I envy those who have defined goals and work towards them with gusto but I’m more of a live-in-the moment and take advantage of the new possibilities. The goal is not set in stone nor is the how to get there. I like to think the getting there is the best part!

    1. Living in the moment allows us to jump at opportunities we couldn’t plan for. I know this. I believe this. Sometimes I forget it. Thanks for reminding me!

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